That's the whole point, that can always be different. Wrong attitude begins with fear. Who's afraid, he sees all the opposite of their true needs. To less fearful man restrains his fears, but it does not help. Contrary to expectation, fears intensified, as long as there is no malice. So visible pleasant turns unpleasant. The protest against the bad is natural. Take for example a very unpleasant situation, which all relate to the fear, if not with hatred. You wake up in the morning from a toothache and discover that his cheek was swollen. Wow, what an attack, and at the worst possible, the most unpleasant time! Well, the tooth is broken, and his treatment was delayed due to lack of time, but it is necessary, he was inflamed right now! You understand that there is no other choice but to remove a tooth today. It is necessary. About feelings we will not say.